When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation?
I’m not talkin’ about the “Hi, how are you?” “I’m fine, thanks, you?” That exchange has less value than a bounced check.
Don’t get me wrong – small talk has its place in our lives. To some, it’s entertaining, a great way to pass the time. Personally, I think it’s kind of a necessary evil, something I do to be polite and engage with other humans…. But to each their own.
As necessary as small talk seems, today I’m wondering if there’s room in our lives for more meaningful conversation.
To me, this dialogue is the kind that excites you. It puts you in flow, engages your mind, stokes your passion and ignites your energy.
Even more than all of that, meaningful conversation gets to the heart of the people involved.
When two people are engaged in this kind of dialogue, it’s a beautiful thing. They’re sharing parts of their soul – what’s important to them, what makes their heart sing. You can see and hear the passion, witness the exchange of ideas, the opening of minds and the beauty of human connection and understanding.
Personally, I don’t feel this way when I’m chit-chatting. It’s not totally unpleasant (usually), but I don’t ever feel like I’m really getting to know that person.
So this morning, when my guy opened up to me over a lovely breakfast under the warm sun, I was thrilled. More than that, I was interested, engaged and inspired. I was getting to the heart of him.
That’s the kind of conversation I live for.
I crave deep connection – getting to hear about their fears and passions, their past, present and future. It makes me feel compassionate and alive. My heart and mind open wide.
When was the last time you had a conversation that left this kind of impression on you? What topics get you excited? Do you think you could use more meaningful conversation in your life?
Please share in the comments below – I’d love to hear some other perspectives.
Peace, love and a steaming cup of Zen,